ON NUPTIAL KNOT AND THE”FOREVER”

ON NUPTIAL KNOT AND THE”FOREVER”

We vow to overcome all the travails and differences we might encounter while on this “forever” journey. In fact , no one will ever believed that, there will come a time when we will cast unfounded aspersion on each other or to even be found wanting for dereliction of matrimonial duty. whenever, we heard a story of two love birds, singing a sweet melody of love, we call them all sort of names, as no couples worth our salt on the surface of this earth, can ever sing the love song that pierce through delicate hearts like a spear does, and illuminate the darkest side of memories like the sun suddenly rising at the darkest hour of night, which we used to sing hand in hand. We strongly believed we are inseparable when we first tied the nuptial knot. Blessed and happy, will always be our union, but gradually the two melting hearts that were once interwoven, will start questing for freedom, to soar into the sky, at least to be out of that cage.

Disagreement and quarrel that were once alien in our dictionary are now found in the first page. The eyes that only see right, now see wrong intermittently ,the ears that were used to hearing soft and heart touching melodies now only hear unpleasant sound rattling through them and the tongues that move up and down to utter appreciation and dislodge those knife –edge words, now move to express dissatisfaction and bitterly complain about internment. No two ways about it that our nascent union we both swear to keep for better and for worst, will in a short while hit the rock. But why?

In next to no time we started telling our selves the gospel truth that we are incompatible and are not meant for each other. Our respective past relationships which we wrestled and defeated, now resurrect and waylay our present union. All what our emotional entrails hide is been spew out, because we can no longer carry on. What we couldn’t see at the beginning now become flagrant for all to see. Some times we cry and shed tears wishing to be reconcilable but the harder we try to accommodate the rebellion inside us, the more we inflict pain on each other.

We only did it to kindle the fire of desire burning inside us, to toe the line of our elders and also to obey the ubiquitous traditions. Now that our emotional sophistication is well pronounced, we are paying the price of not adoring each other right from the beginning of the journey. So is not the nuptial knot but the “forever” with its attendant boredom that exposes our pretence and inability to carry on even if it takes eternity. We should have meticulously listened to our ailing hearts right from the on set but alas we were in a haste to please others and earn the respect of the tradition we pledge to preserve for generation to come.

We can of course pretend to have feeling for each other in the short run but not in the long run, because the “forever” challenge will not let us have peace. Only when we religiously obey our hearts desires, we can know the happiness and tolerance in nuptial journey, but not when we do other’s bidding at our own future detriments.

The tenderness of courtship should be preserved and maintained even if it will take forever. The flag of love that is flying should always be kept flying and the tempo should be maintained come what may. Our union to be together till death do us part should be inundated with bliss that quenches the thirst of desire of seeing each other any time and any where. That is how union build on love, care, trust, forgiveness and understanding, is all about